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Letter Not Meant To Alienate Anyone*

Dear Family & Friends:

Yes, my miscarriage was confirmed this morning via ultrasound.

Please do not call me and ask me how I am doing. I could smile and laugh and tell you that I was okay but that would be pointless. I am fucked up right now. And no, I don’t want to talk about my feelings. I’m not ready to talk about “it”.

Don’t give me your sympathy or pity because I simply don’t want it. Please do not send me holiday cheer because Christmas can go fuck itself. No holiday cheer here, thank you very much.

I am not trying to be mean, but I haven’t gotten a new cell phone as of yet, even though I feel crippled with my cell phone being dead, because I don’t want to talk to you and answer the “how are you feeling” questions. Please understand.

And really, no advice. I don’t need your advice on soldiering up or how time heals all wounds. Thanks, keep the clichés for some other tortured soul.

All I can do right now is simply be. It’s hard enough to get out of bed. I can’t do anymore than that right now. Maybe in the near future I can transform from just “being” to “living”. Don’t hold your breath.

Fucked Up,

Bengali Chick

*Please don’t be offended. I am not trying to offend anyone. I know my friends and family are amazing. I just want to get through this alone and I know that when I’m ready to come to you, you will be there. Love you.

Posted by Oni on Monday, December 18, 2006 at December 18, 2006 |

:-(

You are right- everything I want to say does sound cliche. So instead, I am sending you my love.

Love you!

Posted by Anonymous T. | December 19, 2006 at 12:35 AM  

You will be in my prayers, may god give you the strengh to get through this.

Posted by Anonymous Priya | December 19, 2006 at 5:38 AM  

i really didn't want to jump to conclusions on your last post ... ((hugs))

Posted by Anonymous Sonia | December 19, 2006 at 8:26 AM  

Sending you much peace and sunshine and strength, lovely lady. We'll definitely be around when we need us.

Posted by Anonymous yasmine | December 19, 2006 at 9:51 AM  

sending hugs.
lots of them.

Posted by Anonymous Chick Pea | December 19, 2006 at 11:55 AM  

We each have to cope in whatever way we need to... I don't think anyone could be offended by what you wrote. I'm praying for you, sending love your way from DC.

Posted by Anonymous Anna | December 19, 2006 at 7:27 PM  

I'm sendin' positive thoughts/vibes ur way.

Posted by Anonymous Chikki | December 19, 2006 at 10:07 PM  

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Posted by Anonymous Chic Mommy | December 20, 2006 at 10:58 AM  

I'm sending you a huge hug bengali chick. Just to let you know dear, I've been there too, my second pregnancy (before the twins) ended in a miscarriage. When you are up to talking about it, e-mail me at chic.mommy@hotmail.com.

Posted by Anonymous Chic Mommy | December 20, 2006 at 11:08 AM  

Love you lots my dear. sending good thoughts and wishes your way. ((hugs))

Posted by Anonymous renee | December 20, 2006 at 2:47 PM  

I have read. I have listened. I am thinking about you.

Posted by Anonymous Shauna | December 20, 2006 at 5:46 PM  

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