How Not To Be Angry With Hubby
How do I say this delicately... when I'm hungry I am especially b*tchy. It's Sunday and hubby has been at the office all day. He proposed that I come over to his office for dinner and afterwards we could work together. He would do his boring business crap-o-la and I would edit his newest publication. Seemed like a plan!
On my drive over to hubby's office, he called me and asked when he should order dinner. I told him to order right away as he was hungry and to put my salad in the fridge. Hubby thought it was better to wait b/c he didn't want the potential conflict of the delivery guy showing up when hubby was outside helping me find parking to arise. I assured him that this conflict would not occur. He started being neurotic. I started getting frustrated. I was hungry and I didn't want to wait for the food. This is usually when b*tch mode could strike.
I took a deep breath. I thought about hubby's neuroses and how they make him who he is, insanely adorable. I started thinking about how grateful I was to have this wonderful man who took the time to read the entire salad section of a menu to me more than once while I spent several minutes trying to figure out my order. I started smiling. All of my frustration disappeared instantly.
Yes, I do agree that we all have a right to our own feelings and emotions. But honestly, do negative emotions ever truly help us out? Well... I will be the first to admit that make-up sex is pretty damn hot, but I could skip out on the fighting and dive "head" first into steamy love-making, no?
On my drive over to hubby's office, he called me and asked when he should order dinner. I told him to order right away as he was hungry and to put my salad in the fridge. Hubby thought it was better to wait b/c he didn't want the potential conflict of the delivery guy showing up when hubby was outside helping me find parking to arise. I assured him that this conflict would not occur. He started being neurotic. I started getting frustrated. I was hungry and I didn't want to wait for the food. This is usually when b*tch mode could strike.
I took a deep breath. I thought about hubby's neuroses and how they make him who he is, insanely adorable. I started thinking about how grateful I was to have this wonderful man who took the time to read the entire salad section of a menu to me more than once while I spent several minutes trying to figure out my order. I started smiling. All of my frustration disappeared instantly.
Yes, I do agree that we all have a right to our own feelings and emotions. But honestly, do negative emotions ever truly help us out? Well... I will be the first to admit that make-up sex is pretty damn hot, but I could skip out on the fighting and dive "head" first into steamy love-making, no?
Haha I love your philosophy on arguing with the hubbs. While I don't have one of my own yet, I find myself giving my mom (of all people) advice that seems to echo your sentiments on positive thinking regarding the sometimes annoying things one's hubby seem to do. I love your blog template too, any advice on how to fancify mine?
Posted by
Belle |
February 19, 2007 at 8:32 AM
I love when reason and willpower trump anger and irrationality! Right on!
Posted by
roonie |
February 19, 2007 at 11:01 AM
Belle: Roonie was the one that hooked me up with the fancy template! I'm not very suavvy with template design.
Posted by
Bengali Chick |
February 20, 2007 at 12:40 PM
Point noted. Thank you for sharing such a positive view! I needed that...
Posted by
It will pass... |
February 20, 2007 at 3:07 PM
good job with that! it especially helps when you are aware of the things that tick you off and can head it off my reminding yourself its _______, not really him that is making you nuts.
you're gonna need that chica. motherhood ain't any easier, from what i've heard. ;)
Posted by
kit and kumari |
February 20, 2007 at 8:09 PM
I meant to mention to you that just by the way you speak of hubby you guys will have a long, healthy, loving relationship!
Keep it going...
Posted by
Loving My Life |
February 21, 2007 at 12:05 PM